Challenging, depressing, difficult, disappointing, hard, stressful, a struggle, and unpleasant… these are a few of my favorite things *queue the music* that fall into my favorite phrase of “less than magical.”
The holidays can be hard for some people. If I’m being honest, I think the holidays are hard for most people. I’m not here to speculate or tell you why this might be a difficult time of year for you. If it’s challenging time of year for you, you know why. You do not need me to explain why. Your reasons are valid. I want to offer a Love Letter (though, I think we can all agree it’s a little early for Valentine’s Day!) to you, the parent who finds the holiday season less than magical at times.
My Dearest Love,
I see you sparkle. There are so many twinkling lights emerging and you may be adding on a few layers of clothing for warmth and/or comfort thinking your light might be starting to dim or be hidden under all the other responsibilities and tasks. But I still see that sparkle.
I see you sparkle when it’s been a long day, that candle has almost burned out, and something crosses your path to breathe a little life back into your flame. That something could be as simple as a well-chosen meme from a friend, a side hug from your tween, or just a moment of silence to hear your deep calming breath without being drowned out by the jingling of bells.
I see you sparkle when you maintain the healthy boundaries you have set with family members, when you manage to say “no” when you have reached your limit, and when you take a pause and delete the snarky response you considered for a social media post.
I see you when you don’t feel like you are sparkling. I see you when others are trying to dim that sparkle. I see you when the very last thing you want to do is sparkle.
I see that you are not alone.
I see that you are trying your best.
I see that you are worthy of unconditional love.
Please know that it is absolutely okay to celebrate the holidays however you would like – even if that way is different from how you celebrated as a child, as a young adult, or even just last year. Please know that your children already know you are the greatest gift to them. Your sparkle is the cause of the precious sparkle you get to see in their eyes.
Sending you hope and love,
– a parent who also finds the holidays less than magical at times
If you’d like articles with specific tips for help during the holidays, I’d recommend the following:
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