I Threw My Kid’s Toy Out the Window

I did. I truly did.

I could lie and say I was at the end of my rope, but really it was just a normal Tuesday. A few errands, a late lunch, a Target run for throw pillows—you know, just a Tuesday. But I’ll tell you what: it worked. It worked like an ever-lovin’ charm. Throw your kid’s toy out the window and you’ll gain the horrified shock silence you’ve always wanted from your children.

Here’s how it all went down.

We were running in, store to store, because I needed to find some throw pillows for fall (because duh—it’s August). I don’t even need to explain the urge to enter the doors of Target, though, because that’s a force stronger than you and me. So, there we were in Target, when my daughter announced she needed to go to the Dollar Spot section because she brought $5 to spend, and like mother, like daughter, that money was burning a hole. So, off we went (after two hours of errands already) to search the Dollar Spot for must-haves. My two sons were pretty much out of gas and patience, and it was beginning to show. We searched and searched and my daughter finally found the slime and precious Kinder Joy egg that she’d been waiting for her entire life [insert mom eye roll here], and we were headed home. For those of you who aren’t as cool as a six-year-old, these eggs are made of chocolate and have a little plastic toy in them. I don’t get it, but to my daughter, they might as well be made of gold.

So, we walked out of the store and up the long sidewalk toward our car, which was conveniently parked seven stores away because I’m not right in the head and thought it would be fun to walk store-to-store. Riiight, not so fun anymore.

So we’re walking. My middle son starts taunting my daughter with a race. She isn’t interested, yet he keeps on…and on. She snaps back, “The only reason you’re winning the race is because you’re the only one racing. I’d win if I wanted to.”

“ENOUGH,” I plead. “No racing. No fighting. Just walking.”

“OK,” my son says, “but I’m still winning.”

I decide silence is the winning ticket here and proceed to push the stroller through the Texas heat in silence so that I don’t lose my you-know-what outside of HomeGoods. Those are my people, and I can’t have that kind of reputation there. So silence it is.

Out of the corner of my eye, I witness it. She trips him, and he’s down. Wait for it—three, two, one—”WAHHHHHHHH!”

My son runs over and tattles. I calmly ask my daughter what happened (obviously an old mom trick because I already know the answer). “I pushed him. Oh, wait—actually, he pushed me.” Strike one.

“Nope,” I say, nonchalantly. “Try again.”

“OK, OK. I think I might have tripped him on accident because he was running so fast by me.”

“Nope. Strike two, my friend. And now you’ve lied twice and will have consequences at home. No more talking until then.” (If you recall, I’m still in public and still walking toward my car and now coincidentally, in front of a liquor store.)

This is where the story goes further south than Mexico. She loses it. And by loses it, I mean put a fork in her. She starts screaming, “You don’t care about the truth? You don’t even care about me trying to be honest? I should get three strikes! Three strikes is the correct number of strikes!” And so on and so forth. People are looking, y’all. We all know those looks and side-eye glances. I got at least three in that moment alone.

So I keep walking. Almost there. She’s crying and still talking. One child is whimpering and another is blowing raspberries from the stroller. Keep walking.

We get to the car. It’s hot, I’m sweaty, and I’m so over Tuesday. My daughter is still crying and telling me it’s important to care about the truth and if I’d just let her tell me what happened, she wouldn’t be mad at me anymore. I’m wondering what bottle of wine I should drink tonight: red or white? Red feels more satisfying on a day like today. A nice Cabernet should be fantastic.

I buckle the boys into their car seats and get into the car. I look back at her and calmly as I can say, “One more word and your Kinder Joy egg goes out the window.”

Welp. Not my best work. As soon as I said it, I knew I probably shouldn’t have. You’re not supposed to threaten things you won’t follow through on. I know that. I’ll admit, perhaps it wasn’t my most shining moment as a parent. However, something happened in the car on that Tuesday that I can’t explain. I forgot the tools I have spent years collecting and instead decided to sink to the lowest level I could think of and threaten my child with a Kinder Joy egg. I had gone and done it.

I look back in the mirror, and she stops for a second. Then she looks at me, thinks about my command to remain silent, and says, “Like this?”

BAM. The window rolls down and the egg goes flying out. One fluid motion.

She loses it. My son loses it. And I realize that I, a grown woman, have indeed thrown a fully packaged Kinder Joy egg out the window.

Immediately she and I have the same thought: I just littered and could have hit a car in the process. SOLID parenting, y’all. She informs me that I’ve just littered and I decide to take the fifth. To make matters worse? I turn around and scream, “Do you believe me now?!” I should not be driving. I’m a lunatic. Turns out that she does, in fact, believe me now because she is silent all the way home. And as if this situation isn’t crazy enough, I look down at the radio and this is what is playing. The air smells of cheap victory and take a picture to document the moment I lost all parental dignity.



Adulting update: The next morning, I decided to turn back into an adult. I did give myself some props for following through with my threat, but I went up to my daughter’s room and apologized. I said that I wasn’t sorry for refusing to let her have the egg after the lying, outburst, and disrespect she had shown, but that I should not have thrown it away (or, ahem, out the window) because she paid for it with her own money. I said that I was wrong, out of line, and sorry. I promised to replace her Kinder Joy egg, but she still had to earn it back with better behavior before receiving it. She agreed to the terms, and we hugged it out. I turned to leave her room and she stopped me. She said, “Mom, I’m sorry for not telling you the truth, but you really shouldn’t litter anymore. You’re an adult, remember?”

And there it was: the nail in the coffin. Thanks, kid. I do remember. Well, at least I do now.  

Erin is a born and raised San Antonio native. She is a proud graduate of Southwestern University, St.Mary's University and Texas Tech University. After graduate school, she married the love of her life and moved back to to town to be near both sides of their families. Together, they are attempting to raise three crazy humans: Chloe- 2011, Connor- 2014, and Charlie 2017 who make life fun, happy and hard. Erin is a marriage and family therapist and a contributor and sales coordinator for ACM. She is a lover of all things involving food, music, sarcasm and wine. And love. There must be lots of love. You can find her on Instagram at Instagram Favorite Restaurant: Nonna Osteria Favorite Landmark: Majestic Theatre Favorite San Antonio Tradition: Fiesta Arts Fair


  1. People have emotions. Children need to recognize their behavior can provoke negative emotions. If they don’t learn this from their parents, the world will teach them. We do a disservice to our children when we shelter them from negative consequences. Thanks for being a human being.

  2. My wife sent me your story and I immediately started smiling. I find what you did is the only way to get a child to do what you want. Instead of throwing it out of a moving car, I throw the toy in the garbage in front of him. I saw a dramatic change in his behavior. He now knows that I am serious about him behaving in public spaces.

  3. You know how when you’re young and (possibly) newly-married and have all the answers about how to raise kids? I remember witnessing a mother of a toddler threatening a spanking if he didn’t stop whatever it was he was doing. Repeatedly. I mean it! Stop that or Mommy’s going to spank you! Did you hear me? I’m warning you! One more time, Buster and that’s it! Etc. Self-righteous me smugly took it all in and thumbtacked it to my brain for future reference. (I wouldn’t need this info for another 9 years.) First time parenting can be so…challenging, confusing, down right frustrating. And rewarding, but I digress. The first time I remember dealing with a child/adult bargaining session gone bad was at Toys R Us with a 3 year old who had to have a particular newly marketed GIJoe action figure. Deal was, we have very little time. If we go and they don’t have it, we aren’t shopping. We’re leaving. Deal? Yes, Mommy. They didn’t and the deal started unraveling deep in the store. I am still patting myself on the back (witness this lengthy response to your wonderful blog)for turning my back on a child in mid-meltdown and walking with head held high, away. With the child chasing after me. Eventually quieting down in possible shock and awe. Not actually sure that was the reaction. Surprise though, surely. No doubt I had caved previously. He actually laughs at this story now. Me, too. But we got through it with a very good relationship intact. Trial and error. Name of the game.

  4. Erin! My goodness the moments this brought back to me! One of the enduring lessons I took away from raising my own kids is that your children have the ability to strip you down to your
    own elemental existence. You learn things about yourself that you didn’t think were part of yourself.

    These can be hard lessons my friend, but it is important to know our own behavioral boundaries are much less defined than we expect.

    I’m thinking of a particular day where I found myself unexpectedly standing in the hallway of my house and yelling at one of my children, “Don’t you roll your eyes as me! I never let anyone roll their eyes at me and you will certainly not be the first”!

    You are a fabulous parent! And a wonderful writer as well!

  5. This was hilarious!! I love the part where you say you parked far away because you’re not right in the head! 🙂

    Glad the end of the story was a happier one and everyone learned something that day.

    Also good on you honestly for throwing it. I don’t think I would have had the same mettle to do that and I think it’s important to follow through. Maybe she will believe you next time.

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