No, I’m not tired. But thanks, I guess?
What am I supposed to say to this? “I make an effort to get enough sleep each night, so no, actually, I’m really not.”
For some reason, people do not hesitate to tell me when they think I look tired. And I know what you’re thinking. You’re probably a sweet person giving these folks the benefit of the doubt, saying, “Oh, but maybe they just are concerned about you,” or, “Maybe you actually do look tired.” But, NO! This is NOT the case. This does not happen as an excuse to hand me a fresh latte, nor is it followed by an “are you OK?” to feign interest in my life or start a conversation. It’s in passing. It’s in the hallway at work. It’s a statement. An observation.
Can someone please tell me what good comes from telling another person that he/she looks tired?
I am typically told I look tired when I am not wearing any make up. I do not believe this is a coincidence. (I also do not believe it to be a coincidence that the only people who observe my “tiredness” do not wear makeup themselves.) You see, this is not the first time this has happened to me. It’s pretty much guaranteed: if I do not have on eye liner or mascara, people confuse it for exhaustion.
Is it my fault? Should I expose the world to my 36-year-old, melasma-splotched, sun-damaged, acne-scarred face more often? Am I “false-advertising?” Is makeup the pushup bra for the face? Will I find a meme of myself on the internet, with and without makeup, blamed for some poor soul’s trust issues? Or, are the people who say “you look tired” the same type of people who tell you to smile for no apparent reason other than they would prefer to see you looking more pleasant?
I know this is a silly gripe. There are definitely worse things going on in the world, but hearing this when I’m feeling peppy really deflates my balloon! So, please, stop telling me I look tired—unless I just yawned, and in that case, send caffeine!